I hear the cheer: “be aggressive, be… be... Aggressive!” Alas, too often people think that being assertive is likened to being an aggressive mean person (to put it politely).
This article is highly influenced off Michael Powell’s: How to be Assertive. J Thank you Mr. Powell.
Let’s talk first about the difference between being assertive and being aggressive. Aggression or aggressive behavior is when one expresses their wants in a way much like a sucker punch. “Oh yeah, well take that!” They tend to push their views and communicate with threats or put-downs. “You are either with us or against us!” While an assertive person will express their needs in a direct way, yet maintain respect for the other person’s views and needs.
Note: Some people avoid being assertive because they don’t want to be unpopular, and have the mentality of: “Go along to get along.” Yet, in the end, if you honestly express yourself with empathy, you will see that you will be more likeable and worthy of respect.
Let’s get down to it. How to be Assertive with these helpful hints.
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